My only deduction from this toxic onslaught of blame and hatred towards women, is the man's inability to speak honestly about his feelings and refusal to take ownership for his role in any relationship with the women in his life, whether it's his mom, sister, lover, daughter or friend. It's easier to pin his insecurity on the weaker sex, just like a schoolyard bully picking on the skinny kid. Interestingly, one of the reasons for the feminist movement, is because men weren't protecting women the way they should have. Our grandmothers had to beg for an allowance, look the other way when he cheated with the secretary, and was never believed if she was beat or raped.
I'm not hating on all men here. There are so many terrific men who do protect their wives and families and who respect their mothers and do good in the world. But unfortunately the bitter incels and divorced dads have clogged the interwebs with what I can only describe as a serious lack of ownership for their own shit.
I used to feel angry reading the comment sections of social media when I would read the poisonous vitriol that men would type. Safe behind their screens, they tap, tap, tap their dark, invasive thoughts about how women have wronged them, and how they belong back in the kitchen and out of the work force. Of course, most, if not all, of these men could never support a family on just his income in this economy, but it feels good to blame someone for their lack of money and power, right? Eve was the scapegoat for original sin, so why stop now?
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
Men also complain about women doing OnlyFans, porn, stripping or prostituting, and yet again, they've created these professions through their own demand. I guess they have no problem consuming, just as long as it's not HIS daughter or HIS wife.
According to these men, women are “damaged goods” after the age of 25, and all single women over 40 are sure to die alone with their cats. This is classic projection, given the fact that there are far more men dying alone and miserable than women. In fact, women are pretty good at fostering relationships and having hobbies after retirement. Men? Not so much. But I digress…
